Photo A Day – November 6: My favourite #FMSphotoaday

SINCE TODAY WAS our ‘demiversary’ (six months since our civil partnership) I am cheating by sharing my favourite photo taken on that day instead of today. As my friend Sean catches the owl that flew the length of the church aisle carrying our rings, our family and friends looked on amazed, as we had kept this moment secret. This was… Read more »

Photo A Day – November 5: Home at 5pm #FMSphotoaday

THIS IS an unusual sight for me at 5pm on a weekday – our front door! As co-ordinator of the UK’s longest running LGBT youth group, I work late at least two evenings a week. This week we are increasing to opening three times a week, for the first time in its 36 year history. In the last three years,… Read more »

Photo A Day – November 4: TV turn-off #FMSphotoaday

  THERE SEEMS to be a synchronicity about some of the Photo A Day prompts – Friday was about ‘Colour’ just as we are choosing our carpet colours, today is about TV, just as we are getting rid of ours. The decorator arrives tomorrow so we are clearing the lounge/dining room today. I put details of some bookshelves, the corner… Read more »

Photo A Day – November 3: A very British breakfast #FMSphotoaday

  FOR BREAKFAST this morning we had boiled egg and soldiers with a pot of Earl Grey tea. Each egg was delivered in style on the back of a Mini. These very British egg cups were a gift to us from one of our best friends for our civil partnership, to remind us of the fun we had trying to… Read more »

Photo A Day – November 2: Colour #FMSphotoaday

SIX MONTHS after our civil partnership (the first to be registered in a place of worship in the UK) we are nesting before winter comes. Today a carpet fitter came to measure up, and a decorator arrives on Monday. It’s all about colour and compromise – we have been together almost five years and lived together for four, but I… Read more »

Photo A Day – November 1: The candle #FMSphotoaday

WHEN I STARTED this blog two months ago my aim was to create and keep a space to express creativity and share my story. Life began to get in the way, so this month I aim for daily bite-size chunks not weekly essays – though I may still do one or two of those too! The inspiration for this came… Read more »

Come out, come out, whoever you are… Why we need National Coming Out Day

NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY (NCOD) has been celebrated on 11th October in the US and increasingly around the world, since 1988. NCOD celebrates individuals who publicly identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and/or transgender (LGBT) and coming out about sexual orientation and/or gender identity as a cultural rite of passage for LGBT people. It marks the anniversary of the 1987 National March… Read more »

SEEN and not heard? Why I am inspired to work for my community

ON OCTOBER 12th SEEN, the LGBT community magazine for Merseyside, will host the second annual SEEN Awards. This year there are several new awards, including ‘Inspirational Person of the Year’. When the shortlist was announced at the end of August I was pleasantly surprised to find I am on it. Am I inspirational? Clearly someone thought so, otherwise I wouldn’t… Read more »

The scared and the sacred – Wrestling with identity

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THIS is a detail of Jacob Wrestling With The Angel, by Alexander-Louis Leloir (1865). I discovered this image as I began writing my coming-out-in-faith story. I believe the story which inspired it has something to teach us about our identity, which may explain its popularity as a source of inspiration for artists, and why it speaks to me of my own… Read more »

Jack-with-no-box – Why I have come out of the church

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IN MY LAST POST I explained how I began to find my voice while contributing to The Exuberant Church by Rev Barbara Glasson. As Barbara and I discussed the coming out process, I had a strong sense that I needed to help her write her story and, in doing so, I began to write my own. I started in Spring… Read more »