Tag Archives: sexuality

Enduring love? Couple relationships in the 21st Century – part 1

TONIGHT WE HAD a visit from an Open University Researcher who is working on a project called: Enduring Love? Couple Relationships in the 21st Century. My partner completed an online questionnaire a few months ago and we were selected from more than 5000 people who completed the questionnaire to be one of 60 couples who are interviewed for the second… Read more »

A photo a day kept inspiration at play – Now can we be married and gay?

WHEN I STARTED this blog I aimed to write a short post each week. I managed for about six weeks, but some of the posts were not so short as I was writing about issues and experiences that had been on my mind for months and years. But life began to take over and I lost momentum for a few… Read more »

Photo A Day – December 9: Out and about #FMSphotoaday

TODAY I STAYED at home in the warmth, working on the annual report of the Michael Causer Foundation, of which I am a trustee. To prevent me going stir-crazy from being home all day, I decided to walk to the evening service at a nearby Anglican Church. On the way, I passed the derelict Welsh Presbyterian Church (above), known as… Read more »

Photo A Day – November 14: Man-made? #FMSphotoaday

AS IT IS Transgender Awareness Week, it seems appropriate to explore ‘man made’ labels about gender and identity. Meet the Genderbread Person – not an original image of mine but one I find helpful in my work with the UK’s longest running LGBT youth group. I have used this resource with the youth group this week to help them understand how… Read more »

Photo A Day – November 6: My favourite #FMSphotoaday

SINCE TODAY WAS our ‘demiversary’ (six months since our civil partnership) I am cheating by sharing my favourite photo taken on that day instead of today. As my friend Sean catches the owl that flew the length of the church aisle carrying our rings, our family and friends looked on amazed, as we had kept this moment secret. This was… Read more »

Come out, come out, whoever you are… Why we need National Coming Out Day

NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY (NCOD) has been celebrated on 11th October in the US and increasingly around the world, since 1988. NCOD celebrates individuals who publicly identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, and/or transgender (LGBT) and coming out about sexual orientation and/or gender identity as a cultural rite of passage for LGBT people. It marks the anniversary of the 1987 National March… Read more »

SEEN and not heard? Why I am inspired to work for my community

ON OCTOBER 12th SEEN, the LGBT community magazine for Merseyside, will host the second annual SEEN Awards. This year there are several new awards, including ‘Inspirational Person of the Year’. When the shortlist was announced at the end of August I was pleasantly surprised to find I am on it. Am I inspirational? Clearly someone thought so, otherwise I wouldn’t… Read more »

The scared and the sacred – Wrestling with identity

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THIS is a detail of Jacob Wrestling With The Angel, by Alexander-Louis Leloir (1865). I discovered this image as I began writing my coming-out-in-faith story. I believe the story which inspired it has something to teach us about our identity, which may explain its popularity as a source of inspiration for artists, and why it speaks to me of my own… Read more »

The ultimate question

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TOMORROW I turn 42. In the first novel and radio series of Douglas Adams‘ The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy, a group of hyper-intelligent pan-dimensional beings demand to learn the Answer to the Ultimate Question of Life, The Universe, and Everything from the supercomputer, Deep Thought, specially built for this purpose. It takes Deep Thought 7½ million years to compute and check the answer,… Read more »